It is common and perhaps trite to say “I have no regrets.”
The truth is that I do have regrets.
Due to the messed up ways of the world I was relatively popular in high school. If you are a good athlete you are popular and I was a decent enough athlete to be relatively popular.
I now realize that I could have used this power to have more of a positive influence than I did at the time.
I work with high schoolers in Young Life now and I am often heart broken about the scars that people have from being mistreated while in high school that I could have helped prevent.
I may not have caused the scars but I could have prevented them.
If I could do it again I would stand up for people who didn’t have the confidence to stand up for themselves.
I would befriend those who needed a friend.
I wouldn’t simply avoid bullying* myself I would also defend and befriend those who are being bullied.
I had enough confidence that I could have not only treated people well but proactively fought injustices.
I had the confidence but lacked the awareness and the courage.
I can’t do it again.
I can start today.
I can stand up for those who are being mistreated.
I can befriend those who need a friend.
I can proactivley fight injustices big and small.
I no longer lack awareness but I am still seeking the courage most days.
Here is a moving video about bullying http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ltun92DfnPY
*Bullying needs a wider definition than we typically give it. Bullying is not reserved for high schools and is not limited to newsworthy events. Bullying happens anytime power is misused.